Being a SAHM can be tough, but wholly cow – making friends as SAHM is even harder. Whose with me?
I found myself getting down today after coming home from a day outside socializing, but was still left with the feeling that my efforts to make lasting, substantial friendships isn’t paying off. I know i’m not the only one who has this same dilemma. Out there somewhere are a ton of other moms left with the same feelings of wanting “girlfriends” and close bonds with other women, but still struggling to form those connections.
I’ve lived in this town for almost a year, and have made an honest tiring effort to get out and meet other moms. I’ve joined clubs, gone to events, smiled, started conversations, the whole shebang. I’ve made a few acquaintances but haven’t been successful in moving past this point into true bonded, pick-up-the-phone to simply “chat”, friendship.
I get down sometimes when I think about now having true close friends to hang out with, talk to, and share thoughts with. That feeling sucks. Then I remind myself that I have to keep pushing through and one day the efforts will pay off. A day out trying to mingle and get to know others, but leaving feeling like a failure doesn’t actually make me a failure. It doesn’t mean I failed. It all just means that I haven’t found my “tribe” yet. Yes, I said TRIBE. The one word that I hat hearing/seeing/saying. But there’s a lack of better words here ladies! Oh wait, i’m sorry… Squad?
Anyway, before this turns into a total depress-fest, let me finish by saying I still have faith that I will find my tribe/squad one day. Despite replaying conversations wondering if I’ve said something to offend or scare people off (“did I overshare, under-share”). That’s not the case. I’m a nice person, I care about others, and am 99% sure i’m fairly normal!
If your going through the same thing, keep your head up Mama. Your not alone and eventually we’ll both navigate our way through making friends as a SAHM.